Ever experience the awkwardness of having to call a hoof-care client to remind them to pay their bill? You walk a fine line of diplomacy. Being a pushover won't get the client's attention. Being too pushy can offend, risking losing not only money that's due, but future business as well.

Most of the training I do is on choosing words that enhance trust and differentiate your service to make price less relevant. You can use these same trust building principles to gain cooperation with clients who aren't paying. Consider these nine tips.

1. Do your homework

Start by gathering details about the invoice and about how much overall business the client does with you. Any large volume client isn't going to be happy about receiving a collection call over a relatively small invoice. In fact, they may rethink continuing to do business with you. On the other hand, a first-time hoof-care client with a large overdue bill should be contacted sooner rather than later. When it comes to collecting, it makes sense to give long-term clients special consideration.

2. Begin with a courtesy email

The first reminder can be a friendly email sent soon after payment is due. Keep the tone light and conversational: “Pat, I was looking through my receivables and noticed I haven't received a payment yet on this invoice. I want to make sure you did indeed receive it and there's nothing you need from my end. Thanks."

 3. Stand up for yourself

If the email doesn't receive a reply, it's time to pick up the phone. If you're feeling anxious, stand up when you phone. Your voice will have more resonance and authority, and you feel more confident and in control.

4. Share facts not accusations

Certain phrases can inadvertently sound like accusations that put clients on the defensive. Telling clients they are late or overdue sounds like a generalization. Instead give specific dates and encourage them to talk, “Payment was due on the 17th and as of today I haven't received it. Is there something about the payment I should be aware of?” Listen. Gather facts. Take notes. This isn't the time to state your position. Instead, summarize you're understanding of the facts you collected. “So, if I understand this correctly, the situation at your end is...?” A huge part of building trust with anyone is demonstrating that you understand their circumstances.

5. Empathize

After you’ve summarized your understanding of their situation, if a client has indeed been experiencing financial setbacks, then empathize. Begin with two magic words: sounds like. “Sounds like you’ve had a run of unfortunate events. I’m sorry to hear that.” Those words make you sound humane and go a long way toward making late paying customers want to cooperate.

 6. Don't make it personal

Typically, we personalize service by using the word “you,” as in, “Let me check for you.” In the case of collections however, the last thing we want is for this to be taken personally. So rather than asking, “When can you pay?” Instead ask, “When can I expect payment?” Speaking of word choices, avoid asking whether they “want” to pay by installments. Few people want to pay bills. Instead ask, “Would it be helpful if we set up a payment plan?”

 7. Express your ‘Grand Intention’

If you are indeed dealing with a normally reliable repeat customer, explain that you value their business and want to help them through this. I call it expressing your grand intention. It sets a positive tone and implies that you’re interested in achieving a long-term mutually positive outcome. Again, the goal is for them to feel motivated to pay.

 8. Summarize your understanding

Before hanging up, clarify what you and the customer have decided, “For my notes and to make sure I have everything clear, here’s what we’ve agreed upon moving forward...” Then send them a written summary confirming what you discussed. That way if you end up in court you'll have documentation.

9. Last resorts

If you conclude there’s slim hope of collecting all monies or that you no longer want to continue doing business with that client, consider settling for less than the full amount. In most cases, you'll be further ahead financially than what you’d receive by either suing them or engaging a collection agency. Speaking of unpleasant clients, some business owners have told me they meet once a year with their staff to “fire” their one or two worst customers. These are individuals who create more stress than they are worth. In that case, they send the customer a letter along the lines of, “It appears you have not been satisfied... we are therefore asking that in future you use the services of (competitor).”

Bottom line 

While phoning hoof-care clients to get paid may be daunting, by simply being a strong listener and choosing your words more thoughtfully, you can make collecting from clients less unpleasant and more rewarding.